Criticism probably causes more relationship conflict in the world than anything else.
It's hard to take.
But in getting your girlfriend back, can criticism actually help you? Yes, it can -- if it doesn't lead to fighting back, and preserves strength, respect, and care for the critic.
And by changing if the criticism is valid.
You want to do anything that helps to get her back.
Criticism can help you keep the relationship once she does come back.
What criticism are we talking about? The kind that you get from somebody else, not the kind you dish out! The focus here is on how to receive criticism, not how to give it.
There are better ways to give it, too, but that's a topic for another article.
Right now, remember that giving out criticism would only conflict with your goal of having your girlfriend back with you.
So for the moment concentrate on receiving criticism.
But how is that supposed to help anything, especially your current quest? The answer is that criticism is either valid or it's not, but what makes the helpful difference is the way you take it.
If it's valid, then you do need to change somehow.
By changing you show your commitment and maturity.
And accepting it like a good sport reinforces that good impression.
If it's not valid, then the way you take it is even more important.
If you keep a caring, respectful attitude instead of fighting back or defending yourself, then you have a chance to demonstrate even more maturity (and love).
You might even disprove the criticism by the way you accept it.
Getting good at this ability and making it a habit will remove what may be the biggest source of trouble in your relationship.
This is a new take on criticism.
Most people are thinking about how to get away from it or how to answer back.
You'll rise above all that and in so doing, make criticism an unimportant thing for you and your intimates.
The maturity and self-possession you show with this approach will help all your relationships and likely open doors you didn't even notice before.
More to the point here, practicing this attitude will give you a much higher chance of success in getting your girlfriend back.
It's hard to take.
But in getting your girlfriend back, can criticism actually help you? Yes, it can -- if it doesn't lead to fighting back, and preserves strength, respect, and care for the critic.
And by changing if the criticism is valid.
You want to do anything that helps to get her back.
Criticism can help you keep the relationship once she does come back.
What criticism are we talking about? The kind that you get from somebody else, not the kind you dish out! The focus here is on how to receive criticism, not how to give it.
There are better ways to give it, too, but that's a topic for another article.
Right now, remember that giving out criticism would only conflict with your goal of having your girlfriend back with you.
So for the moment concentrate on receiving criticism.
But how is that supposed to help anything, especially your current quest? The answer is that criticism is either valid or it's not, but what makes the helpful difference is the way you take it.
If it's valid, then you do need to change somehow.
By changing you show your commitment and maturity.
And accepting it like a good sport reinforces that good impression.
If it's not valid, then the way you take it is even more important.
If you keep a caring, respectful attitude instead of fighting back or defending yourself, then you have a chance to demonstrate even more maturity (and love).
You might even disprove the criticism by the way you accept it.
Getting good at this ability and making it a habit will remove what may be the biggest source of trouble in your relationship.
This is a new take on criticism.
Most people are thinking about how to get away from it or how to answer back.
You'll rise above all that and in so doing, make criticism an unimportant thing for you and your intimates.
The maturity and self-possession you show with this approach will help all your relationships and likely open doors you didn't even notice before.
More to the point here, practicing this attitude will give you a much higher chance of success in getting your girlfriend back.
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