If you're a single man, do you ever have 'anxiety' about approaching women? You never know what she's thinking, what you should say or if she'd reject you? It sucks doesn't it? Why is all of this pressure on you? So just where does 'AA' or 'approach anxiety' come from (at it's root)? After going through it myself and curing it (without doing thousands of approaches) I've got some great insight.
In this article we'll explore one of the PRIMARY causes of your anxiety which just happens to be the behavior of the women you're approaching.
After all, they are HALF of the equation aren't they? What if they're just never giving you the nonverbal flirting indicators of interest and are instead just ice cold? That would lead to self-doubt and anxiety but it takes two to tango right? You're taught to believe from almost all of the dating experts that it's you that's the problem.
It's your fault.
From their viewpoint if you have ANXIETY around approaching or meeting women, you have to 'fix' yourself or work on your 'inner game'.
But wait a minute...
aren't women the other half of the equation? How can they not even include them in the equation (as if ice cold women are the 'standard' of attraction and desirability?) What I'm going to say next just doesn't get through to most Western men and I hope that you CAN get it because it will save you YEARS of pain, struggle and misery in your single life.
If you just WENT to the Philippines or Lithuania for example, there wouldn't be any problem meeting or approaching women.
In some countries you would find it easier to meet women even when you don't speak their language.
Sound impossible? It isn't.
Sexual communication is MOSTLY non-verbal.
There are just some women who are (far more) in touch with their feminine selves and are fluent in 'body language' whereas many of the ice cold women you've approached, just aren't in tune to the mating dance.
So without seeing signs from a woman you don't want to risk the rejection and wonder if she IS interested.
This creates anxiety but it's not your fault.
So, is the problem really YOU as the dating guru's would have it? Or is the problem something that is far greater than your own ego and it's Western, socio-centric based view of women and 'how things are'.
If you try doing 'day game' in Tokyo even if you're one of the best in the world at it, you're going to find it EXTREMELY challenging and difficult to get anywhere.
Why? Because of the strong socio-cultural influence on attraction and relationship dynamics.
I've found that men who HAVE traveled around the world, really start to 'get this' fact much easier than those who are only focused on the high (social) value women in their area code (which they think is sexual value).
So if there is no anxiety or problem meeting women in many places overseas but you HAVE anxiety when meeting women in the U.
S.
or U.
K.
, then MAYBE, just MAYBE there is 'something else' going on that is entirely outside of yourself and your inner game.
Maybe you SHOULDN'T be taking all of this 'blame' onto yourself as the inner game guru's would have it.
So, yes I am saying that the cultural influence has almost everything to do with it.
The entire 'social matrix' is designed for you to be frustrated in real life and for single men and women to value consumer, fantasy relationships instead of the 'real thing'.
The thing is, it actually worked.
People now value the fantasy of sex and relationships (magazines, video games, movies, music, good consumerism) so much more than the real thing it seems.
That is why things are inconsistent.
The values of what = sex and attraction are so far skewed in our social culture that dating has become a challenge, even a chore.
Our women have generally lost touch with the 'natural' way of attraction and that's why they go for the hard-edged bad boys who have still retained that authentic sexual communication.
Because of these unnatural, socio-centric, conspicuous, consumer-escapist values of 'The West' dating and meeting the opposite sex has become difficult not just for you but for women as well.
Many have forgotten how to flirt and are behaving more like the posing and acting models in their fashion magazines instead of behaving like real, natural women.
One look at L.
A.
culture and you'll be able to sense this.
Bitchiness, aloofness and vindictiveness are not sexual traits yet people are brainwashed (literally) into believing through advertising that they ARE desirable and sexual traits of women.
Unfortunately the dating guru's haven't caught up to this reality that it ISN'T your 'inner game' or you that is really the problem.
So, is aligning yourself to the warped fantasy of sexuality a real answer? If you lived in a certain environment and it's all you saw and knew (say Las Vegas strip), you would BELIEVE that it was real or that this is how things are.
But it leads to economic relationships instead of real, physical relationships.
The 'fantasy' of sex is 'physically' all around you but none of it (the t&a in magazines, models posing) leads to real attraction, chemistry or relationships.
Most likely you're just lost as a 'pawn' in the 'game' and felt to feel as if it's your 'fault' so you seek more economic solutions.
The 'fantasy' is in the behavior of women you want to approach in clubs and bars.
They have this 'power' but it's not sexual behavior.
Fantasy has blended with your reality and has influenced what you BELIEVE = sex or = 'sexy' or 'sexual' behavior.
So if you BELIEVE that a woman teasing and flaunting = sexy behavior what happens in REAL LIFE when you meet real women? You attract non-physical relationships just like the fantasy of sex in our media.
It's all about non-physical fantasy.
You're supposed to buy the product instead of share a real relationship of chemistry with a woman.
With this non-physical map of sexual reality, women remain out of touch no matter how much you approach or work on your inner game.
You're left with anxiety because they're so far 'out of reach' even though they can be so close and you're doing a lot of approaching.
The skin, flaunting and posing is just NOT the process or path of real and physical attraction but your mind and body was conditioned to believe it was so you have this tremendous anxiety around women.
It's hard to ever really 'connect' because this anxiety is coming from your beliefs of sexuality and thinking that this behavior of women is sexual instead of being social-adaptive behavior which it really is.
It's not until you sort out what is REAL from what is FANTASY that you will clearly start attracting real women and relationships instead of more of the non-physical fantasy of sex and relationships with women.
I think you're probably already a GREAT CATCH and sense something is just 'off' and you shouldn't have all of this anxiety with women and dating.
Anxiety comes from you expecting women to act a certain way and then you don't know how to communicate with them because they're behaving socially, acting like the models on the cover of magazines even though none of it is 'real'.
The good news is that once you change your definition of what = sexy and your VALUES of sexuality, you will start attracting the ACTUAL behavior out of these same women that leads to real, physical relationships.
So instead of valuing sexploitation and porn, instead you start valuing something else entirely about women.
Fortunately this can all be summed up in my 'Maps of Sexuality' bonus which represents the different belief systems that exist and define behavior.
This comes along with my new 3 Step program 'Cure My Approach Anxiety'.
I encourage you to find out more because when you can SEE where your anxiety comes from and that the social vs.
natural definitions of what = sexual behavior in women has everything to do with your success, you will become a far more confident and centered man.
You won't have to be 'held back' by all the convolution of the fantasy of attraction and instead can value and attract the real thing automatically in your behavior based on your new beliefs.
In this article we'll explore one of the PRIMARY causes of your anxiety which just happens to be the behavior of the women you're approaching.
After all, they are HALF of the equation aren't they? What if they're just never giving you the nonverbal flirting indicators of interest and are instead just ice cold? That would lead to self-doubt and anxiety but it takes two to tango right? You're taught to believe from almost all of the dating experts that it's you that's the problem.
It's your fault.
From their viewpoint if you have ANXIETY around approaching or meeting women, you have to 'fix' yourself or work on your 'inner game'.
But wait a minute...
aren't women the other half of the equation? How can they not even include them in the equation (as if ice cold women are the 'standard' of attraction and desirability?) What I'm going to say next just doesn't get through to most Western men and I hope that you CAN get it because it will save you YEARS of pain, struggle and misery in your single life.
If you just WENT to the Philippines or Lithuania for example, there wouldn't be any problem meeting or approaching women.
In some countries you would find it easier to meet women even when you don't speak their language.
Sound impossible? It isn't.
Sexual communication is MOSTLY non-verbal.
There are just some women who are (far more) in touch with their feminine selves and are fluent in 'body language' whereas many of the ice cold women you've approached, just aren't in tune to the mating dance.
So without seeing signs from a woman you don't want to risk the rejection and wonder if she IS interested.
This creates anxiety but it's not your fault.
So, is the problem really YOU as the dating guru's would have it? Or is the problem something that is far greater than your own ego and it's Western, socio-centric based view of women and 'how things are'.
If you try doing 'day game' in Tokyo even if you're one of the best in the world at it, you're going to find it EXTREMELY challenging and difficult to get anywhere.
Why? Because of the strong socio-cultural influence on attraction and relationship dynamics.
I've found that men who HAVE traveled around the world, really start to 'get this' fact much easier than those who are only focused on the high (social) value women in their area code (which they think is sexual value).
So if there is no anxiety or problem meeting women in many places overseas but you HAVE anxiety when meeting women in the U.
S.
or U.
K.
, then MAYBE, just MAYBE there is 'something else' going on that is entirely outside of yourself and your inner game.
Maybe you SHOULDN'T be taking all of this 'blame' onto yourself as the inner game guru's would have it.
So, yes I am saying that the cultural influence has almost everything to do with it.
The entire 'social matrix' is designed for you to be frustrated in real life and for single men and women to value consumer, fantasy relationships instead of the 'real thing'.
The thing is, it actually worked.
People now value the fantasy of sex and relationships (magazines, video games, movies, music, good consumerism) so much more than the real thing it seems.
That is why things are inconsistent.
The values of what = sex and attraction are so far skewed in our social culture that dating has become a challenge, even a chore.
Our women have generally lost touch with the 'natural' way of attraction and that's why they go for the hard-edged bad boys who have still retained that authentic sexual communication.
Because of these unnatural, socio-centric, conspicuous, consumer-escapist values of 'The West' dating and meeting the opposite sex has become difficult not just for you but for women as well.
Many have forgotten how to flirt and are behaving more like the posing and acting models in their fashion magazines instead of behaving like real, natural women.
One look at L.
A.
culture and you'll be able to sense this.
Bitchiness, aloofness and vindictiveness are not sexual traits yet people are brainwashed (literally) into believing through advertising that they ARE desirable and sexual traits of women.
Unfortunately the dating guru's haven't caught up to this reality that it ISN'T your 'inner game' or you that is really the problem.
So, is aligning yourself to the warped fantasy of sexuality a real answer? If you lived in a certain environment and it's all you saw and knew (say Las Vegas strip), you would BELIEVE that it was real or that this is how things are.
But it leads to economic relationships instead of real, physical relationships.
The 'fantasy' of sex is 'physically' all around you but none of it (the t&a in magazines, models posing) leads to real attraction, chemistry or relationships.
Most likely you're just lost as a 'pawn' in the 'game' and felt to feel as if it's your 'fault' so you seek more economic solutions.
The 'fantasy' is in the behavior of women you want to approach in clubs and bars.
They have this 'power' but it's not sexual behavior.
Fantasy has blended with your reality and has influenced what you BELIEVE = sex or = 'sexy' or 'sexual' behavior.
So if you BELIEVE that a woman teasing and flaunting = sexy behavior what happens in REAL LIFE when you meet real women? You attract non-physical relationships just like the fantasy of sex in our media.
It's all about non-physical fantasy.
You're supposed to buy the product instead of share a real relationship of chemistry with a woman.
With this non-physical map of sexual reality, women remain out of touch no matter how much you approach or work on your inner game.
You're left with anxiety because they're so far 'out of reach' even though they can be so close and you're doing a lot of approaching.
The skin, flaunting and posing is just NOT the process or path of real and physical attraction but your mind and body was conditioned to believe it was so you have this tremendous anxiety around women.
It's hard to ever really 'connect' because this anxiety is coming from your beliefs of sexuality and thinking that this behavior of women is sexual instead of being social-adaptive behavior which it really is.
It's not until you sort out what is REAL from what is FANTASY that you will clearly start attracting real women and relationships instead of more of the non-physical fantasy of sex and relationships with women.
I think you're probably already a GREAT CATCH and sense something is just 'off' and you shouldn't have all of this anxiety with women and dating.
Anxiety comes from you expecting women to act a certain way and then you don't know how to communicate with them because they're behaving socially, acting like the models on the cover of magazines even though none of it is 'real'.
The good news is that once you change your definition of what = sexy and your VALUES of sexuality, you will start attracting the ACTUAL behavior out of these same women that leads to real, physical relationships.
So instead of valuing sexploitation and porn, instead you start valuing something else entirely about women.
Fortunately this can all be summed up in my 'Maps of Sexuality' bonus which represents the different belief systems that exist and define behavior.
This comes along with my new 3 Step program 'Cure My Approach Anxiety'.
I encourage you to find out more because when you can SEE where your anxiety comes from and that the social vs.
natural definitions of what = sexual behavior in women has everything to do with your success, you will become a far more confident and centered man.
You won't have to be 'held back' by all the convolution of the fantasy of attraction and instead can value and attract the real thing automatically in your behavior based on your new beliefs.
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