What do you do if the spark that ignited and brought you and your spouse together is slowly fading? What's the alternative? Is it even worth considering or do you pledge and start working on ways to save your relationship?
Let's face it, marriage is a complicated partnership. Marriage can be a very complicated journey or a simple journey. The key to most successful marriages is the bond that exists between both couples. This bond is achieved when both couples understand each others strengths and weaknesses as well as what each brings to the relationship. When most couples get married, they go through a phase where they think nothing can go wrong and as a result everything seems perfect at least for the time being. They pledge to be there for one another when they take their wedding vows. Since they are in the phase where they can't do any harm it seems ok until a problem enters their marriage. Problems related to stress in the workplace, financial problems and other problems can break a relationship and leave a lot of heartache. It's important to start planning and taking the necessary steps to save and strengthen your relationship before any signs of problems.
Nowadays, divorce has been so commercialized from the billboards we see, print media as well as all around us that, most couples often think divorce is the only way without really trying to figure out another course of action. To avoid being another divorce statistic, here are some helpful tips that you can use to help save your relationship or your marriage and prevent divorce.
Communicate with your spouse. The key in any relationship is efficient communication. How will your spouse know what you are going through or how you feel if you do not communicate effectively and efficiently? We've heard the saying Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus but seriously unless you are a self-proclaimed mind-reader, you have to communicate with your spouse. Listening to your spouse is also key. You have to be willing not only to communicate with your spouse, but to also listen and pay attention when he or she is talking to you. Most of the time spouses will zone out when the other is talking or assume they know what they are going to say and as such they start formulating a solution to the problem. This only aggravates the situation and causes more conflict in the relationship. If one is listening carefully, then you can deduce a lot from what the other person is trying to communicate. Most of the times, they just want someone to listen to them vent about what happened at work and all they need is for someone to comfort and love them. Sometimes a hug and letting your spouse know everything will work out or you will see them through whatever they are going through strongly communicates to them that you truly care about them.
Spend quality time with your spouse. This is something most couples do not do. Get together and plan some outings together, a picnic at the park, a romantic date night together or even in today's economy, dinner and a movie at home can make for a great date night. Spending time together will allow both of you to re-connect and rekindle the flame that brought you together. It's important to make the quality time that you spend together count. For instance, avoid using this time to complain about your pesky co-worker or the boss you love to hate or for that matter what your spouse does or doesn't do that irritates you. Instead, learn to be more positive and upbeat and instead of complaining, find something about your spouse that you like and complement them on it. This will help create a positive environment where love can grow. Also, spending time together more frequently will allow for both couples to be more open to each other which will foster communication and lead to a more healthy relationship.
Rekindle intimate moments with your spouse. It's easy to lose track of how being intimate with your spouse can help save your relationship and rekindle the flame. Being intimate with your spouse is more than just making love regularly. Don't get me wrong, making love regularly with your spouse is very important and strongly recommended but being intimate involves much more than just making love. Being intimate involves cuddling with your spouse by the fireplace or the couch, gently caressing their hair as you watch TV or a movie, giving them a massage after a long day at work, listening to music together, walking on the beach holding his or her hand, giving each other warm loving hugs, kissing them gently and letting them know you love them or a romantic date night. Being intimate with your spouse communicates to them that you deeply care and your feelings for them are genuine.
Have a positive attitude. Easier said than done right? Let's face it, it can be very difficult to be positive all the time, however in order to save your marriage, you have to be willing to try. It's so easy nowadays to be negative. Just look at the news! Negativity is all around us and as a result, it's easy for spouses to fall into the trap of having a negative attitude in the marriage. Consider this, when you start dating your spouse, they could do no wrong. All you saw was what you liked about them and their positive traits. This is what drew you closer and attracted you to them. Once we get married we "relax" so to speak and overlook the positive traits that attracted us to our spouses. As a result, we start focusing on the things that they don't do for us or how they chew their food etc and we start focusing on their pet peeves and that creates a very negative environment in the relationship. To help save your marriage and you relationship you need to be positive and uplift your spouse instead of putting them down all the time.
Let's face it, marriage is a complicated partnership. Marriage can be a very complicated journey or a simple journey. The key to most successful marriages is the bond that exists between both couples. This bond is achieved when both couples understand each others strengths and weaknesses as well as what each brings to the relationship. When most couples get married, they go through a phase where they think nothing can go wrong and as a result everything seems perfect at least for the time being. They pledge to be there for one another when they take their wedding vows. Since they are in the phase where they can't do any harm it seems ok until a problem enters their marriage. Problems related to stress in the workplace, financial problems and other problems can break a relationship and leave a lot of heartache. It's important to start planning and taking the necessary steps to save and strengthen your relationship before any signs of problems.
Nowadays, divorce has been so commercialized from the billboards we see, print media as well as all around us that, most couples often think divorce is the only way without really trying to figure out another course of action. To avoid being another divorce statistic, here are some helpful tips that you can use to help save your relationship or your marriage and prevent divorce.
Communicate with your spouse. The key in any relationship is efficient communication. How will your spouse know what you are going through or how you feel if you do not communicate effectively and efficiently? We've heard the saying Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus but seriously unless you are a self-proclaimed mind-reader, you have to communicate with your spouse. Listening to your spouse is also key. You have to be willing not only to communicate with your spouse, but to also listen and pay attention when he or she is talking to you. Most of the time spouses will zone out when the other is talking or assume they know what they are going to say and as such they start formulating a solution to the problem. This only aggravates the situation and causes more conflict in the relationship. If one is listening carefully, then you can deduce a lot from what the other person is trying to communicate. Most of the times, they just want someone to listen to them vent about what happened at work and all they need is for someone to comfort and love them. Sometimes a hug and letting your spouse know everything will work out or you will see them through whatever they are going through strongly communicates to them that you truly care about them.
Spend quality time with your spouse. This is something most couples do not do. Get together and plan some outings together, a picnic at the park, a romantic date night together or even in today's economy, dinner and a movie at home can make for a great date night. Spending time together will allow both of you to re-connect and rekindle the flame that brought you together. It's important to make the quality time that you spend together count. For instance, avoid using this time to complain about your pesky co-worker or the boss you love to hate or for that matter what your spouse does or doesn't do that irritates you. Instead, learn to be more positive and upbeat and instead of complaining, find something about your spouse that you like and complement them on it. This will help create a positive environment where love can grow. Also, spending time together more frequently will allow for both couples to be more open to each other which will foster communication and lead to a more healthy relationship.
Rekindle intimate moments with your spouse. It's easy to lose track of how being intimate with your spouse can help save your relationship and rekindle the flame. Being intimate with your spouse is more than just making love regularly. Don't get me wrong, making love regularly with your spouse is very important and strongly recommended but being intimate involves much more than just making love. Being intimate involves cuddling with your spouse by the fireplace or the couch, gently caressing their hair as you watch TV or a movie, giving them a massage after a long day at work, listening to music together, walking on the beach holding his or her hand, giving each other warm loving hugs, kissing them gently and letting them know you love them or a romantic date night. Being intimate with your spouse communicates to them that you deeply care and your feelings for them are genuine.
Have a positive attitude. Easier said than done right? Let's face it, it can be very difficult to be positive all the time, however in order to save your marriage, you have to be willing to try. It's so easy nowadays to be negative. Just look at the news! Negativity is all around us and as a result, it's easy for spouses to fall into the trap of having a negative attitude in the marriage. Consider this, when you start dating your spouse, they could do no wrong. All you saw was what you liked about them and their positive traits. This is what drew you closer and attracted you to them. Once we get married we "relax" so to speak and overlook the positive traits that attracted us to our spouses. As a result, we start focusing on the things that they don't do for us or how they chew their food etc and we start focusing on their pet peeves and that creates a very negative environment in the relationship. To help save your marriage and you relationship you need to be positive and uplift your spouse instead of putting them down all the time.
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