How to Save Our Marriage - Stay Married Through a Mid Life Crisis
Contrary to historical beliefs, a midlife crisis is not a male only syndrome.
Wives, as well as husbands, can be swept up in this whirlwind of aging anxiety, self-doubt, and fear of the future.
A midlife crisis, usually affecting adults in their 40s or 50s, does not have to mean the end of your marriage.
One thing is for certain, no matter which spouse is going through the crisis, both of you will likely get hurt, especially if you are blindsided by it.
A midlife crisis for men is that time in their life when they are suddenly punched in the gut by the fact that they are aging.
It is that time when you realize that the newcomers at work are not really getting younger and younger, it is you who is getting older.
You may be facing retirement and uncertainty in the financial aspects of that time of life.
The children are grown and have children of their own.
How did that happen? How did life slip by so quickly? For women, a midlife crisis may mean getting that empty nest syndrome when the children are grown and have moved out of the house.
Your role as a caretaker has been substantially cut, you feel worthless and unnecessary.
Now you realize that you are not as young as you used to be, so you add unattractive to your list of cons.
Midlife may be the 'white water' section on the river of marriage.
It may seem as if your marriage will not survive.
Your marriage can survive if you remember these tips: 1.
Hang on to your sanity.
Keep reminding yourself that it is only temporary.
You may not be able to stop the crisis, but you and your spouse can ride it out.
2.
Stay committed.
No matter what happens, vow to stay committed to the marriage.
You may have an unbearable desire to have an affair or just get a divorce.
Do not make any major decisions concerning your marriage until the crisis has passed.
3.
Cling to your values.
If you once believed in 'for better or for worse,' keep believing and stick to it.
Take some time out from the panic of midlife and think about the values you have held most of your life.
Resolve to keep those values intact.
Getting through a midlife crisis is never easy.
The chance that a midlife crisis will leave wounded behind is fairly great, but it does not have to leave casualties behind.
Wives, as well as husbands, can be swept up in this whirlwind of aging anxiety, self-doubt, and fear of the future.
A midlife crisis, usually affecting adults in their 40s or 50s, does not have to mean the end of your marriage.
One thing is for certain, no matter which spouse is going through the crisis, both of you will likely get hurt, especially if you are blindsided by it.
A midlife crisis for men is that time in their life when they are suddenly punched in the gut by the fact that they are aging.
It is that time when you realize that the newcomers at work are not really getting younger and younger, it is you who is getting older.
You may be facing retirement and uncertainty in the financial aspects of that time of life.
The children are grown and have children of their own.
How did that happen? How did life slip by so quickly? For women, a midlife crisis may mean getting that empty nest syndrome when the children are grown and have moved out of the house.
Your role as a caretaker has been substantially cut, you feel worthless and unnecessary.
Now you realize that you are not as young as you used to be, so you add unattractive to your list of cons.
Midlife may be the 'white water' section on the river of marriage.
It may seem as if your marriage will not survive.
Your marriage can survive if you remember these tips: 1.
Hang on to your sanity.
Keep reminding yourself that it is only temporary.
You may not be able to stop the crisis, but you and your spouse can ride it out.
2.
Stay committed.
No matter what happens, vow to stay committed to the marriage.
You may have an unbearable desire to have an affair or just get a divorce.
Do not make any major decisions concerning your marriage until the crisis has passed.
3.
Cling to your values.
If you once believed in 'for better or for worse,' keep believing and stick to it.
Take some time out from the panic of midlife and think about the values you have held most of your life.
Resolve to keep those values intact.
Getting through a midlife crisis is never easy.
The chance that a midlife crisis will leave wounded behind is fairly great, but it does not have to leave casualties behind.
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