Self Help - The Patterns You Run - What They Are, Why You Run Them And How To Stop Them
Patterns Early in your life you began to develop the patterns you currently run in your life.
As these patterns are largely unconscious, you will continue to repeat them until they are brought into your conscious awareness and resolved.
What do I mean by running patterns? Patterns are unconscious behaviors that we consistently repeat throughout our life until we gain the necessary learning from them.
The outcome of these patterns usually increases in magnitude until the unconscious pattern is brought into our conscious awareness.
Two examples of people who had run very strong patterns are provided below.
As you read them, you may think that the patterns are so obvious that surely the person was aware of them.
It is much easier, however, to observe a pattern in another person than it is to see the patterns in your own life as you are emotionally detached from the other person's life.
For example, Marie was a lawyer who ran a negative pattern in relation to her self-worth in relationships.
Fortunately, Marie thought the same thing and stopped the pattern.
She now has a very successful life and career as a single mum with a beautiful daughter.
Another example is George who ran a pattern in relation to finances.
He grew up in quite impoverished circumstances and was taught from a young age that money had negative connotations.
In particular, he believed that people with money were responsible for the environmental damage done to the world.
In his mind, money was a bad thing.
This is how he ran his pattern:
His house was again robbed, but the final time, the police caught the culprits.
He went to the police station to collect his stolen property and laughed when he got home to find the police had returned not only his stolen property but someone else's as well.
Your patterns relate to the lessons you aspire to learn in this lifetime.
Becoming aware of a pattern takes you at least half the way to gaining the learnings from it and releasing the need to continue running it in your life.
Understanding 'why' you run the pattern usually provides the final part of the process to heal that issue.
When you examine the patterns you run, you will find the clues to unresolved issues in your life.
Once the issues are resolved, you will find that you no longer run these old patterns.
How Do You Identify And Stop Running Patterns? Review your life with ruthless honesty and examine any major patterns that you run.
Look at the major events that have happened in your life so far.
Do you repeatedly cast yourself in the role of martyr or victim? Do you have beliefs in relation to yourself or other situations that repeatedly play out in life? Do some things keep happening to you? Write them down and examine the underlying belief/pattern that they reveal to you.
You will often find that you feel your patterns are due to things outside your control and that they are unfair and undeserved.
Your patterns may relate to things such as:
Be kind to yourself as you go through the process.
As these patterns are largely unconscious, you will continue to repeat them until they are brought into your conscious awareness and resolved.
What do I mean by running patterns? Patterns are unconscious behaviors that we consistently repeat throughout our life until we gain the necessary learning from them.
The outcome of these patterns usually increases in magnitude until the unconscious pattern is brought into our conscious awareness.
Two examples of people who had run very strong patterns are provided below.
As you read them, you may think that the patterns are so obvious that surely the person was aware of them.
It is much easier, however, to observe a pattern in another person than it is to see the patterns in your own life as you are emotionally detached from the other person's life.
For example, Marie was a lawyer who ran a negative pattern in relation to her self-worth in relationships.
- Her first boyfriend cheated on her.
- Her first husband emotionally and physically abused her.
- Her second husband took half her assets and left after 6 months to resume his relationship with his girlfriend of 3 years.
- Her third husband convinced her that her inadequacies were the reason he couldn't give up his same sex bondage habits.
- Her subsequent fiancée abandoned her and their newborn baby daughter.
- As her daughter grew older she dated again only to find that her boyfriend was a gay man seeking a 'straight cover' for his political ambitions.
Fortunately, Marie thought the same thing and stopped the pattern.
She now has a very successful life and career as a single mum with a beautiful daughter.
Another example is George who ran a pattern in relation to finances.
He grew up in quite impoverished circumstances and was taught from a young age that money had negative connotations.
In particular, he believed that people with money were responsible for the environmental damage done to the world.
In his mind, money was a bad thing.
This is how he ran his pattern:
- Repeatedly sold investments at a loss.
- His house was robbed an amazing 8 times.
- Made investments in companies that were fraudulent or not well run.
- Hired an employee who stole money from his business.
His house was again robbed, but the final time, the police caught the culprits.
He went to the police station to collect his stolen property and laughed when he got home to find the police had returned not only his stolen property but someone else's as well.
Your patterns relate to the lessons you aspire to learn in this lifetime.
Becoming aware of a pattern takes you at least half the way to gaining the learnings from it and releasing the need to continue running it in your life.
Understanding 'why' you run the pattern usually provides the final part of the process to heal that issue.
When you examine the patterns you run, you will find the clues to unresolved issues in your life.
Once the issues are resolved, you will find that you no longer run these old patterns.
How Do You Identify And Stop Running Patterns? Review your life with ruthless honesty and examine any major patterns that you run.
Look at the major events that have happened in your life so far.
Do you repeatedly cast yourself in the role of martyr or victim? Do you have beliefs in relation to yourself or other situations that repeatedly play out in life? Do some things keep happening to you? Write them down and examine the underlying belief/pattern that they reveal to you.
You will often find that you feel your patterns are due to things outside your control and that they are unfair and undeserved.
Your patterns may relate to things such as:
- Abandonment
- Abuse
- Addiction
- Being a misfit or in a minority
- Bereavement
- Co-dependency
- Depression
- Disadvantages
- Disfigurements
- Failure
- Finances
- Handicaps
- Hopelessness
- Ill health
- Instability
- Isolation
- Molestation
- Rejection
- Unemployment
Be kind to yourself as you go through the process.
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